Videos and Shit

I do a bad job at promoting videos and stuff that I do as of lately, I should definitely work on promoting for my site again. I feel like my head is in jumbles, and since I really am the only one posting plus freelancing and working, and somehow in between that time trying to have a social life, I feel like my life is busy to be not so busy. Anywho, this is a J*DaVeY interview I did for my freelance stuff

When does the Bachelor Lifestyle have to stop?

Today, was my last day of work (on the weekends) because I got a new job where I'll start working M-F 1-5 to save up money so I can move to LA or NY. I've been working since I was around 14, and somehow, saving money wasn't an importance to me. I do now, but yes I digress. Anyway, I have an older friend that was a patient at my job James, and he came back on the 22nd to be inpatient again. He's funny. Loud! loud! loud! but funny. We always have these conversations that he timestamps--"that album was his sixth it came out in 1949 between the summer of that year" and all these random tidbits of information. He always asks me about boyfriends, and despite still being single, I've focused my energy on someone this time around so I kind of told him that. His response, was quite contradictory to his lifestyle:

"Any guy would be lucky to have you as his girlfriend."

Not contradictory in a weird way, because as they say-- with age comes wisdom. I'm a catch, this I know about myself (tooting my horn) I'm 22, a college graduate, independent, works for what I want don't really need a man for that purpose. Have a great sense of humor, smart, boys mothers all love me. Well spoken, highly motivated plus I cook like really well--gumbo, steak, everything. Again, I digress.

James, doesn't believe in relationships however. He's 70+ and never had a girlfriend, and never had an interest in having a relationship. He said a direct quote, "I've never went to Union Square and attempted to bird watch as women." During our conversation today, I started to interview him and ask him some questions because I wanted to post this. "It's hard to get around a Mulberry Bush. I don't know why."

He said, what would make a woman attractive or interested in dating is exciting, good personality, likes easy listening music, dark hair, and adventurous. Are these the tools to make a lasting relationship, or to end or "Bachelor" like lifestyles? What are your opinions?

Things to make you happy: New Album From Little Dragon

Spotted this on one of the best websites ever Pitchfork, and I'm excited! hollerrrrr!

On July 12, Swedish bent-pop group (and Gorillaz collaborators) Little Dragon will release their new album Ritual Union, the follow-up to 2009's Machine Dreams, via Peacefrog/EMI. Below, you can check out the album's tracklist and use the widget to listen to "Nightlight", a track from the LP. Also below, check out the band's tour dates; they'll tour across Europe in May.

Kim Kardashian's True Blue Hues

I'd never be the person to say, "Kim Kardashian inspired me to do this" because it sounds socially contradictory--atleast to myself, nonetheless, I am a fan of this look. J Brand Blue Jeans,LnA white tee, Rick Owens leather Jacket, Christian Louboutin spike booties and Chanel Purse

Jeffery Campbell Summer 2011 Lookbook

In love. I love Jeffery Campbell shoes, because despite being born in the tail end of 1988, I'm a child of the platform. Here are the looks from his Jeffrey Cambell Summer 2011 lookbook, I definitely need some.

"two roads diverged in a wood and I, I took the one less traveled by."-Robert Frost

One of my favorite poems ever is a poem by Robert Frost called "The Road Not Taken." I remember having to deconstruct this poem in high school, and a stanza (I believe thats what subsections of poems are called) stuck with me in particular.

"I shall be telling this with a sigh. Somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood and I, I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference."

The poem essentially is the opposite of our culture--the BANDWAGON culture, and speaks to you finding your own way, making your own lane, something I wish more of us did. When driving home from Los Angeles, and looking at the scenery, and the snow--yes, snow in California does exist a fact I learned on this trip, I actually started to think of that line, and wondered if I really was taking the road less traveled, I feel yes.

I think a lot of times, individuals get caught in not wanting to appear strange, or different and take the easy route in life whether it's not speaking up for themselves, living above their means to say that can afford stuff while they struggle and eat top ramen, staying in a job they hate with a passion and I don't feel like I fit into this life.

Yes, I love money, but I feel like I rather be creative and do my passion, and let that pay off. I'd never want to get stuck in bullshit because that's all I could do. With that being said, I got a new job which I plan to stay in for a few months so I can save up and move--but out of the Bay Area. Despite not ever really liking Los Angeles, that's a front runner, along with New York. I want to actually do my passion of writing, and despite how many no's I hear or how difficult it is in this life where online media is killing print publications, I'm determined, so I will excel. I rather take a different road than my parents, friends or family, and despite there being possible difficulties or windy roads to my overall destination, I plan to act as if I am a track and field star and hurdle over them.

Any here are some additional pictures from my trip to LA, I'll also do a full fledged post on pictures--I need to start blogging more. Check out my flickr and you can see everything here.

Quoteable: Lykke Li, Spin Magazine

"I'm worried that because I've had my heart broken in the past, I won't be able to give it to someone fully in the future. That doesn't go away if I sell more records."

Dirty Projectors-"Stillness Is The Move"

I love this song. I've been up since 4:30 am, or a little before and I've been listening to Dirty Projections, Bitte Orca album repeatedly. If you don't have this album, just it fast.

i got cussed out...

by a boy who got his ego hurt because I wasn't interested. he then proceeded to call me a "young minded bitch" and "stuck up" yet, you're mature 28, calling me names... blah blah blah really.

the male ego, or ego in general, is a sad thing to bruise, it makes you lose your self esteem. kinda sad.

funny. like really. that's why i don't really date.

photo: celebrities (pointless)

Memory Lane

I was going through blogs on here (I love how you can follow blogs on Blogger) and found a really old blog post from myself from when I was 20. The sad thing is, I'm still this cynical, or fearful of love or whatever. It's odd.

i hate, that..

well let me say it this way. i dislike the fact that, when i have gotten my complete sights on someone, and thinking that possibly, maybe if all goes well, he can share a piece of my soul, i get let down.

i cant tell whether, its something indirectly with them, myself, or little ways that i subconciously pick a man apart in order to safe face to not get my pride bruised along the way.

i’ve tried not being that way, over and over and over again
and i’ve tried over and over again not to compare the future, to the past—-but its hard.
its hard, to realize that you’ve talked or been with someone who fucked you over, and not hope the next guy doesnt. its hard not that have had your time wasted prior, and see repetitive patterns that make you already want to move on.

i’m trying, but this is like giving crack to a recovering crack addict.

or bringing guns to a gun show <—-nerdy cliche.
-erin.

Polaroid APP

Last night, my little sister and I put the finishing touches on our fashion blog, The Coastal Style make sure you favorite it, follow it whatever. When I was fixing the header she told me about this super cool app that let you convert pictures into Polaroid, and let's just say I went a little too crazy over it. Here's my reading material, and some other stuff.

Music > Religion

Since I'm always the single friend in some circles, I've always been the person who is asked series of questions based on my choice to be single. Some of my friends believe I am single because I am picky, without taking into account the fact that I went too hard in school to look or to occupy a thought of a serious commitment. Think about it, I graduated from school earlier than the estimated four years. I would take between 21-24 units per quarter, plus interned, worked part time on weekends and unlike a lot of people most of the time, I was in school five days a week.

With that being said, I'm not picky, I've dated guys who look completely nothing alike, however, there are certain things that are complete turn offs. The first turn off for me is definitely the guy who talks really loud but says nothing, hate that. The next turn off is the overly flashy guy-- brags about the stuff he has, has a nice car and nice clothes to impress people, but still sleeps at his moms house. The greatest turn off for me though is ready? Music.

In relationships, people often say that Religion is a turn off due to the fact that if you end up wanting to settle down with the person, religion is something that could become a tricky situation, however for me, I believe that the differences in religion are beautiful so I'd be able to work with that. I also think due to the fact that I'm Catholic, which I have come to learn not a lot of black people are (this fact I learned from series of conversations) I know more than likely I'm not going to date someone who is my religion but music disturbs me. No, you don't have to like everything that I like, but open minded. Jozen from Until I Get Married, kind of did a post about this recently that stuck with me and aligns with my thoughts. (read the post here) He (the guy I date) doesn't have to like my music selection however, he must give it a listen or a chance, and I'd do the same.

He also must not be close minded to music, that's a turn off. A guy that only choses to retort about how he has some mythical bitches on his dick because he looks like _____ (fill in the blank), or believes that Lil' Wayne and his Young Money affiliates are the "bestest" we, will have an issue. I have come to like a guy who's musical selection teaches me something about him. For instance, one of the last guys I dated, was a musician, however, his musical selection was crazy and expanded beyond hip-hop but to rock, jazz, classic soul, and electronic which essentially made me think a lot more of him, and found him to be more sexy than I already thought he was.

What are your opinions/turn offs? Let's have an open dialogue.

Frank Ocean-We All Try.

I downloaded this Frank Ocean album a few days ago, he's dope and oddly enough, he's apart of the weird phenomena that's become known as Odd Future. I love Ocean's voice, and I love, love, love this song, plus he's a great song writer so I'm definitely down with that as well. I love people who sing about love, but not in a overly sexual way you know, that disturbs my life.

I believe Jehovah Jireh, I believe there's heaven, I believe in war, I believe a woman's temple gives her the right to choose. But baby, don't abort. I believe that marraige isn't between a man and woman but between love and love, and I believe when you say that you've lost all faith, but you must believe in something, something, something.

"I don't even like to drink like that, I like to drink juice."

This is one of my great friends, Ryan, founder of A Baltimore Love Thing. Watching this interview you will see fully why this guy is my friend, with his opinion on why he doesn't drink or do drugs.

Joan Smalls V Magazine Spread

I have a slight obsession with Joan Smalls after seeing her on one of my favorite websites, models.com, a few months ago and since I've been hooked. She's beautiful. In a new spread for V Magazine, Joan Smalls channels the beautiful and legendary character, Foxy Brown played by Pam Grier. Beautiful.